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Aodan Enright
Executive Coach & Facilitator
Aodan Enright is an executive coach and the founder of Smarter Egg, a business established in 2008 in Cork, Ireland. Smarter Egg focuses on helping individuals and organizations enhance their potential through coaching and facilitation. The company initially began with a program that brought together ambitious individuals to explore innovative ideas and personal development.12
Enright's work emphasizes enabling professionals to express themselves fully and effectively in various contexts, including organizational settings and personal growth.3 He is also active on social media, where he shares insights related to coaching and personal development.4
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Given the largely predictable and routine nature of our daily lives, it’s not unusual to for us to trip over the same hurdle more than once.
Whether it’s the second or umpteenth time that something goes wrong for us, our focus tends to shift from what needs to be done in the moment to the fact that this has also happened before.
We can respond in different ways.
We can get angry and frustrated. We can be pissed off with ourselves. We can focus our ire on the nearest available person or institution.
We can also become disillusioned. We begin to doubt our ability to handle stuff. Not giving our all seems like a comfortable move to take.
Or we can accept that this has happened. “Ok, enough now”. And begin to work on preventing another occurrence.
You might notice that of the possible responses, only the last one positions us to act accordingly. Coupled with extra suffering, the other responses don’t help us do what needs to be done.
(This post is adapted from my regular Sunday morning coaching insights newsletter - available here: http://eepurl.com/dvKvzr)
Things rarely go to plan. Even if we have a plan.
Professional life is a mix of ups and downs, joys and disappointments, achievements and setbacks.
How we respond is more important than we often realise. It influences outcomes. And it impacts how we feel about it all.
This is especially true when things don’t work out. We often search around for someone to blame.
Having a scapegoat is soothing. It takes us off the hook. It makes us feel superior.
Immediately seeking someone else to blame is a habit (an unhelpful one). It’s addictive. It’s emotion first, logic later.
It’s worth considering how we sometimes make a bad situation worse or act in a way that brings us further away from resolution.
One of the more useful coaching questions to ask at this time is , “How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want?”
Of course, it’s harder to make improvements in this regard when you are operating in a culture that tends to be blame-seeking rather than solution-hungry. But as professionals, we need to be aware of when we are adopting habits that are unhelpful for ourselves, and for others.
Next time we catch ourselves seeking a scapegoat, it’s worth remembering that other paths are available.
(This post is adapted from my regular Sunday morning coaching insights newsletter - available here: http://eepurl.com/dvKvzr)
