Suggestions
Ben Burns
Chief Operations Officer at The Futur
Leadership at Blind and @thefuturishere.
Highlights
These socks were a game changer for me.
But I've never worn them... lemme explain:
It was 2018, and we had been hired to freshen up the brand and website for a particularly passionate client. I scheduled our discovery facilitation with the primary client and their team… something I’d done hundreds of times before.
But this time, I got something wrong.
I’m not sure how, but I must have miscommunicated my expectations of the time and energy required from their team for this meeting.
Typically, our discovery facilitations in those days were nearly 8 hours long, split up into two sessions.
We assembled in a Zoom room to begin. After I covered the agenda, the client stopped abruptly.
“I’m sorry,” he said, sounding frustrated, “I didn’t realize we were doing all this. We’re going to need to reschedule.”
Then he and his team said farewell… and hung up.
I was stunned. Embarrassed.
This was not the way I liked kicking off projects. The tone we typically set from discovery was one of wonder, adventure, and inspiration.
I’ll admit - I’m still not sure what exactly happened that day, and if it were a miscommunication or a misinterpretation. But I do remember stepping on eggshells for the rest of the project. Checked to make sure I crossed every t and dotted every i. Hit every deadline early.
After the bumpy start, this client became one of my favorites. I looked forward to his calls, and he gave good, friendly, direct feedback. I grew to respect his leadership and confidence. When the project ended, we traded “thank you’s” and parted ways.
Months later, I was going through a challenging time.
My wife was pregnant with our second child: a high-risk pregnancy that required bedrest. Our landlord had decided to hike our LA rent to an unsustainable level… startiing the same week the baby was due. That meant we needed to move. Add an active two-year old, and the weight of helping a fledgling startup take flight (yep, The Futur)…
I was stressed.
One day, a package arrives at the office. Inside was a handwritten note, a pair of funky, colorful dress socks, and a book. It was a gift from that client. His name was printed on the cover of the book - it was one he’d authored. I peeled open the book cover and was, once again, shocked.
There, in black and white, was my name.
He credited the origin of the book to the brainstorming session that he, Chris, and I had done earlier that year. He explained how we’d helped, and thanked us for our work.
It was a small gesture. But in that time of challenge… it meant the world to me.
That little moment of gratitude was a bright light. I think of that often.
How often have you created these moments for your clients? How valuable would it be if your clients thought of you often? How could you share more gratitude moving forward?
It may be worth a moment’s thought.
I'm grateful for you - thanks for making it this far :)
Are you an imposter?
I bet not. I'll prove it to you:
If you lead a team... you're a leader If you sell something... you're a sales person. If you design... you're a designer. If you write... you're a writer. If you speak in public... you are a public speaker. If you own a business... you're a business person. If you provide value... you're valuable.
It's a simple concept. By definition, you are what you do.
But imposter syndrome is a shade or two more toxic: it's the belief that you don't DESERVE the success you have achieved.
You don't deserve to have this conversation. You don't deserve to get paid. You don't deserve the compliment. You don't deserve to be in the room. You don't deserve to win the job.
It's bullshxt.
You might not think you deserve to be in the major leagues. But the fact that you're standing at the plate, bat in hand, means you belong.
You're already in the arena.
Stop comparing. Replace shame with gratitude. Do the thing. Be honest.
Be you.
Drop a comment if this hit home.
