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Joyce West

Founder And Vice President Of Sales at Buyer's Best Friend

Founder and VP Sales at Buyer's Best Friend; founder, California Girl Foods; Director of Sales, Charles Chocolates

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Sep 14 · linkedin

Him: "Do you want to be my friend, or my coach?"

Me: "Both."

Sometimes, I meet another coach or consultant who I think I might want to do a trade with, and instead of exchanging money, we co-coach each other.

I once coached someone who wanted me to just simply give him practical advice, but didn't want to talk about the "heart" ❤️ part of achieving his goals.

He came off a little scattered, forgetful, distracted, anxious, even slightly bitter about some recent things that had happened to him.

When I tried to broach the subject of his emotions and the fact that there was a potential opportunity to explore ways of feeling more grounded, and I tried to find out more about what was going on personally, the response was that the personal information wasn't relevant.

That was the last coaching session we did together.

In my life, work, and coaching, I deeply believe and have experienced that "How you do one thing, is how you do everything".

I am NOT only friends with my clients, but I also love each and every one of them.

I believe that not only is that okay, but it is essential for me to do my best coaching.

Not only do I need to love my coaching clients, but they need to be ready and willing to accept my love.

Unconditional love is the foundation upon which everything else is built upon.

Fear can only motivate you so far, and help you be so creative.

Love is infinite, expansive and abundant.

I even love people who might have hurt me. Even if I don't want to be around them, I still wish them well as fellow humans.

I don't hate anyone, even someone who might hate or resent me.

#CoachingJourney #UnconditionalLove #LifeCoach #DivorceCoach #PersonalGrowth

Sep 13 · linkedin

Recently, I've been reflecting a lot on the concept of "being" versus "doing". Thanks Dave Kashen!

I've always been going somewhere, rushing to the next thing, always being productive.

After my divorce, I struggled for over a year trying to find a new audience to perform for.

Someone new to be useful to.

After a string of bad dating experiences, including not getting texts back for 2 weeks, people who weren't emotionally available or not over their ex, men on the spectrum who couldn't read my emotions, and tons of flakiness, I gave up.

Clearly none of what I was trying was working, so I decided to focus on me.

I went to an event called Dance Meets Tantra, where we learned to express our desires out loud.

"I just want to be with someone who truly wants to get to know me, appreciates who I am, and who is reliable and caring, and who will always text me back within 24 hours, and ideally minutes or hours."

"And, I have to enjoy hanging out with him more than spending quality time with my dog."

The Universe listened, and the next day I received what I had wished for.

For the first time, I'm in a relationship with someone who is not narcissistic, who is securely attached, communicates in a non-violent way, and who is highly sensitive and caring. I feel so adored and treasured, by this man who treats me and everything he encounters so carefully and tenderly.

Bonus: he even adores my pets.

It's better than a Golden Duplex. 😹

Lessons learned: don't stop being yourself, instead truly know who you are, state what you want, and find someone who would be delighted to give those things to you.

Same thing goes for job searching.

Success loves speed, so be ready: once you fully commit to stating what you want, you're likely to get it - as long as you're ready to receive. ❤️

Remember: "Life is too short to not be getting the love you need and deserve."

I don't feel heartbreak anymore, I'm just happy. I've realized that it's possible to feel a deep sense of "being enough" with the right person.

Being with someone who is self confident on their own and doesn't need me or anyone else to validate them is liberating, and gives me the freedom to truly be me in a non-codependent way.

My DMs are open if you want to talk and hear more about what worked for me - whether you're in a marriage/relationship, desiring one, or trying to leave one.

Love is grand, and I want nothing but to have more people experience what I'm experiencing (I mean, look at this cutie!)

#SelfDiscovery #Manifestation #PersonalGrowth #DatingJourney #Desire #Love #Divorce #LifeCoaching

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Founder And Vice President Of Sales at Buyer's Best Friend

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