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Kelly Matthes
Founder, CEO & Product at Tikel
Kelly Matthes is a seasoned problem solver with 15 years of experience in launching innovative ventures and optimizing operational processes for companies of all sizes.
With a diverse background spanning digital media, technology, and electronic manufacturing industries, Kelly has acquired multi-sector expertise.
Having worked across North America, Asia, and Europe, she brings a wealth of multi-national experience to the table.
Kelly is an MBA graduate from Harvard Business School and holds a BS in Finance and International Business from Georgetown University.
She is the Founder, CEO, and Product lead at Tikel and has held various high-level positions at Discovery Communications, Lang Media Group, and Jabil.
Kelly's professional journey includes roles such as Vice President of Business Development, Vice President of Global Digital Strategy, and Advisor for International Development and Digital at Discovery Communications.
At Lang Media Group, she served as Principal, while at Jabil, her roles included Advisor at the Global Business Center, Manager of Strategic Planning and Development, and Project Manager for Business Development.
Highlights
What do your social relationships have to do with your success at work?
Probably more than you think.
We humans are hard-wired to connect, and that hard-wiring doesn’t go away when we go to work.
Neuroscientist and social psychologist Matthew Lieberman argues that our need to connect is as basic as our need for food and shelter. In groundbreaking fMRI research, he showed that social pain feels a lot like physical pain to our brain (there’s good reason we use language like ‘she hurt my feelings’ or ‘he broke my heart’ to talk about social pain). He also showed that our brain’s reflex or default mode (what it does when it’s not focused on a specific task) is to think about other people: their thoughts, feelings, intentions and so on.
Why? Why would our brain process hurt feelings the same way it processes hurt feet, and why would it use its precious downtime to ponder our social life?
According to Lieberman, for good evolutionary reasons. Survival hinged far more on an infant’s relationship with its parents than on said infant’s ability to procure food and shelter.
Lieberman also suggests that bringing out the best in people in a work environment may have as much to do with optimizing their social and emotional wellbeing as anything else. “We may not like the fact that we are wired such that our wellbeing depends on our connections with others, but the facts are the facts.”
Dr. Vivek Murthy, Surgeon General of the United States, comes to the same conclusion albeit through pathology. Years before the COVID pandemic, Dr. Murthy was raising the alarm about what he termed a ‘loneliness epidemic:’
“The most common pathology I saw was not heart disease or diabetes; it was loneliness. Loneliness and weak social connections are associated with a reduction in lifespan similar to that caused by smoking 15 cigarettes a day and even greater than that associated with obesity. Loneliness is also associated with a greater risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, depression and anxiety. At work, loneliness reduces task performance, limits creativity and impairs other aspects of executive function such as reasoning and decision making.”
Bottom line?
Our social relationships matter a lot. And meaningfully affect our mind, body — and work.
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I often get asked why we chose to call our venture ’Tikel.’
A1: Because I think [email protected] is a hilarious email address.
A2: Because the act of tickling someone is a simple analogy for what we’re doing with Tikel.
My 3-year-old niece, Emilia, is obsessed with tickling. “Kell! Kell! Come tee-ka me on the couch!” I hear this at least 5 times a day whenever I see her, and it is the best part of my day.
Have you ever wondered why you can’t tee-ka / tickle yourself?
Physiologically there’s no difference between me tickling Emilia and Emilia tickling herself. But only the former elicits a response.
Why?
Science doesn’t (really) have an answer, despite having been at the question since Aristotle.
According to one American neuroscientist, tickling is “one of the broadest and deepest subjects in science.” He suggests that tickling is rooted in how we neurologically comprehend the difference between ‘self’ and ‘other.’ You can’t tickle yourself because there is no ‘other’ in tickling yourself. (Interestingly schizophrenics can, in fact, tickle themselves.)
Another explanation comes from a German neuroscientist who compared brain responses during play and during tickling. He found that those responses were remarkably similar. His conclusion? That “ticklishness is a trick of the brain that rewards interacting and playing.” There’s no reward in tickling yourself, if the whole neurological point of tickling is to interact and play with others.
What a lovely (if not altogether conclusive) notion. That to tee-ka / tickle / Tikel is as much about ’other’ as it is about ‘self.’ That there is no reward without ‘other.’
That reward, if you’re Emilia and “Kell”? Nonstop giggles and big smiles and belly laughs. (Times 5, of course.)
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