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Kim Noeth
Transformation & Adoption Attuned Coach
Kim Noeth: Adoption Coach and Advocate
Kim Noeth is an Adoption Coach at Growing Intentional Families Together, LLC.1 She is a passionate advocate for birth mothers and works to foster growth and stewardship within adoption teams.12
Adoption Advocacy and Coaching
- Noeth is currently working on a project with an awesome group of people to be a voice for birth mothers.2
- She believes adoption includes gratitude, but the overuse and abuse of the term can be triggering in the adoption community.3
- As a writer, editor, and life coach, Noeth has amazing conversations with people that lead to transformative experiences.5
Importance of Birth Mother Support
- Adoptive couples often underestimate the importance in a birth mother's life to receive photos and updates about the child she placed for adoption.6
- Noeth created a video to share fun ways loved ones can impact a woman who has placed a child for adoption.7
Background
Highlights
Today is Mother's Day, Perhaps that brings up a myriad of feelings, both good and bad.
My hope is that you have found peace and you are living with the benefits of a healthy relationship with the child you placed, knowing that at the time a decision needed to be made, you made the best choice for the future life of your child.
Yet. Maybe you're still struggling with the complexity of it all.
You might find yourself wondering if you are worthy of celebrating the day.
Heck, you might not even consider yourself a mother.
Maybe you despise the notion of yesterday being a separate day (Birth Mother's Day.) to honor women who placed a child for adoption.
Why separate it? Why have two days? Can't ALL mothers celebrate Mother's Day together on the same day?
AND While we're wondering..... Why Birth Mother's Day? Why don't we have a National Step Mother's Day? MANY stepmothers are sacrificially and lovingly filling the role.
I offer you these thoughts....
Mothers show up in a variety of ways, and regardless of how they show up, their presence is vitally necessary and impactful.
Some are there for the long haul, some for a season, and some cheer from the sidelines. Some stand in the shadows, never knowing but always hoping and praying.
Wherever you find yourself this year, I encourage you to step into your strength this Mother's Day.
You may feel invisible, weak, and powerless, but your position is powerful and necessary.
NO ONE can fulfill the same role in the life of the child as you can.
You hold the power to be a positive and impactful presence in the life of your child. Both young and old.
You also hold the power to be a bitter and negative influence.
Big Responsibility. Worthy Outcome.
I believe there is a primal connection between mother and child, Even when you are not at your best. So, lean into that and let it guide you when you feel lost and unsure.
This Mother's Day is the year to let go of all of the stories, opinions, and negativity that you have acquired over the years.
It's the year to transform the guilt and shame, and it is time to start giving yourself grace, understanding, and love for having made the best decision or even having surrendered to the best decision in the hopes that your child will have a more stable life.
Today, you get to be in choice of how you choose to SEE YOURSELF & how you choose to show up in your relationships, especially the one with your child. <3
Happy Mother's Day to ALL the Mother's who made hard decisions concerning their children.
If you know me, you know I am passionate about being a voice for birth moms.
Currently, I'm working on a project with an awesome group of ladies from Growing Intentional Families Together, LLC for Mother's Day that we will be sharing online.
The intention is to raise awareness about how holidays can bring up different feelings for those of us in the adoption constellation.
I know some of you moms are also adoptees, so I'd love to hear from you as both an adoptee and as a birth mother.
You can participate by typing up a brief statement or by recording yourself on video.
You can start by sharing your first name and what perspective you will be sharing from For example: Hi! I'm _______ and I'm sharing as an adoptee or birth mom and BRIEFLY answer the following question: What comes to mind when you think about Mother's Day?
Do you think about your mom? Do you think about your role as a mom? Does it immediately cause you to think about the child you placed or the birth mom you never met, or the relationship that you have with your mom or children?
If you'd like to participate, you can either email me [email protected] or send me a direct message Kim Noeth
Deadline: May 7th
