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Payam Pakmanesh

The ANTI-Pick-Up Artist | Helping shy and successful, socially awkward men connect with more people and find a genuine partner.

Payam Pakmanesh is a dating and relationship coach with a focus on helping high-performing socially awkward men overcome their fear of rejection and improve their social skills.

With over a decade of experience, Payam has coached hundreds of men on enhancing their social interactions, mastering their inner psychology, and finding meaningful connections.

In his professional life, Payam brings a unique perspective, having spent half of his ten-year tech career as a software engineer before transitioning to coaching.

He holds a Bachelor of Arts in Economics from San Francisco State University and has worked in various roles such as Product Marketing Manager, MarTech Consultant, Senior Implementation Engineer, and Creative Director.

Payam is dedicated to assisting individuals in moving away from technology-dependent interactions towards meaningful offline connections, particularly focusing on helping socially awkward individuals initiate conversations comfortably.

Highlights

Aug 28 · linkedin

Here's a simple way to connect and show kindness to a woman...

on a date: 👩‍❤️‍👨

Active Listening.

For example, if she mentions on your first date that she cares about the environment, consider making dinner reservations for your second date at a green-friendly restaurant.

This thoughtful action demonstrates that you listened, without needing to say it outright.

By the way, never do dinner on a first date (especially if you're meeting them from a dating app).

That's a no-no.

Aug 27 · linkedin

What if the way you've been navigating life is all wrong?

Socially awkward men often follow outdated, unconscious roadmaps without realizing it.

But here’s the truth: the map you’re using might be leading you in circles.

Do you ever question whether those maps and mental models need updating or if they’re even correct? Probably not.

You just keep going, assuming everyone else is using the same map.

Here's a secret: they’re not.

If you've never dated, struggle with severe social anxiety, or keep running into the same social issues, your map is likely outdated.

Change your map, change your world.

DM "CHANGE" and I'll show you.

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San Francisco Bay Area