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Sophie Bekkering
Love, Sex & Relationship Coach at Mastering Intimacy. Specialist: Integrative Sexuality, Relationships and Tantra. MA Psychology.
Who is Sophie Bekkering?
Sophie Bekkering is a highly trained Love, Sex & Relationship Coach who helps driven men find fulfillment in their personal lives.1 She is the founder of Mastering Intimacy and combines neuroscience, ancient tantric practices, and somatic psychology to help her clients reconnect with the spark in their intimate relationships.2
Education and Training
- Master's degree in Health Psychology from the University of Amsterdam
- Bachelor's degrees in Psychology from the National University of Singapore and Social Psychology from Leiden University
- Completed a 600-hour Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship coaching program at the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality
Approach and Philosophy
Sophie believes in sexual liberation, empowerment, and the art of love.2 She combines tantra, modern science, intuition and neuroscience to help her clients thrive in love and claim their most fulfilled and confident selves.2 Her mission is to help unlock the power that has always been within her clients and bring them to the next level.2
Work Experience
- Love, Sex & Relationship Coach at Mastering Intimacy13
- Specialist in Integrative Sexuality, Relationships and Tantra3
Sophie Bekkering can be reached at [email protected] or sophie@sophielua.com.45
Highlights
Another day goes by, work is done, you step in the regular routine, scroll through social media or watch tv and go to bed. Is this really it? Is there more to life? This might be a voice in the back of your mind speaking to you.
This is the reality for many people.
I want you to know that the answer to that question “is this it?” is no! There is so much more.
That inner voice is right, there is a lot more to being alive as a human being at this time.
The problem is that you might have that intuitive feeling or inner voice but have no idea what that feeling of ‘more’ could be like.
Let alone knowing how to get there.
This is something you might experience but find it hard to put in to words, or talk about it.
Feeling stuck in the 'stuck-ness'.
Does this all sound familiar?
One of my greatest pleasures is to show people a roadmap into that feeling of ‘more’.
Deeper fulfillment. Feeling more alive. Bringing back the spark. Come home to yourself. Stop living from the head up. Reclaim a part of yourself that has been lost over time.
After many years of self development, trainings, certifications, deep dives, studying, teaching, I realized that the access way to that feeling of MORE.. is through Tantra.
It works by using the most powerful energy we have access to, our sexual energy.
This is not only about what happens in the bedroom. It is about your relationship with your life force energy.
When you learn how to:
Harness this energy within yourself, Get out of habituated patterns, Activate your body in new ways & Release conditioned beliefs and patterns that get in the way..
.. something very interesting happens.
You start feeling more alive, a different feeling arises naturally when you wake up in the morning, more and more sparks of authentic confidence, a new depth in your day to day life, a new activation of your body, spontaneous waves of joy and a connection to something more than some might even call spiritual.
It can be hard to put this experience into words.
This is why it is so helpful to have a tangible and practical roadmap to discover how to make this real in your life.
When I work with clients I create a personalized journey based on where they are and where they would like to be.
I have 2 more spots opening up this summer, so send me a message if this post sparked a feeling of possibility or curiosity for you.
I will leave you with something to think about. It is your relationship with self pleasuring.
Is this something you feel shame around? Are you caught up in habitual patterns? Do you notice what is happening with your breath? Or are you just focusing on the goal without much connection to what is happening in the moment? Do you use it as a quick way to relief stress? Or to simply ‘get rid’ of this energy?
There is a huge area of potential, possibility and growth available when shifting your mind and habits on this topic.
I’d love to hear from you.
You heard me talk a lot about the practice of ‘Sex Transmutation’ lately. If you might be wondering how to actually explore this, this post is for you.
Principles of Sex Transmutation
- Cultivating Awareness:
Begin by becoming conscious of your sexual energy. Bring more awareness and pay attention to the sensations, emotions, and thoughts that arise. Understand how this energy flows through your body and build the mind-body connection.
- Get out of habituated patterns:
This is not about making anything you do wrong or to judge yourself, but to explore new ways of connecting with your body. When you keep operating in certain habit patterns around our pleasure, you create certain neuronal pathways in your brain. Like one super highway to feel pleasure.
The good news is that our brain has a lot of plasticity, especially when introducing pleasure, to build new connections. When doing this you will activate dormant parts of yourself and will come home to ‘more’ of you.
- Open the body:
One of the foundational elements in transmuting sexual energy is to learn how to move this energy through the whole body and spine. This happens with some of the elements most often used in Tantra, which are breath, sound, movement and focus.
- Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies:
Recognize that both masculine and feminine energies exist within all of us. Sex transmutation involves harmonizing these energies, allowing for a balanced and holistic approach to personal development. This does not mean becoming more feminine as a man, but to become more whole within.
- Charge your body
To understand this concept, imagine as if your is a magnet. When you learn to understand how we gain and lose life force energy you can learn how to harness it. You can imagine your pleasure as a fuel that your body can use.
- Up-level your nervous system
We all have a certain upper limit on how much pleasure we can hold before it’s ‘too much’. When you learn how to up-level your nervous system to experience more life force energy you will experience more and more aliveness in all areas of life.
- Expand your relationship with sexuality
Whether you realize it or not, you have been conditioned and programmed around this topic. Which creates a whole list of limitations. It's very liberating to release of what is not serving and expand your mind.
- Self-Exploration: Explore your own body and desires to gain a deeper understanding of yourself. This self-awareness is essential for channeling your sexual energy more effectively.
Sex transmutation is a powerful tool for self-development, often overlooked in our quest for personal growth. It's time to recognize that our sexuality is a source of immense creative energy that can be consciously harnessed for our benefit. As Napoleon Hill wisely observed, individuals who understand the art of sex transmutation become gifted with a superpower for action.
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