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Trystan Reese
CEO @ Collaborate Consulting, LLC
Trystan Reese is a prominent Messaging Strategist and Content Creator at Fearless Foundry, recognized for his work in diversity, equity, and inclusion marketing. He has an extensive background in consulting and content creation, particularly focused on LGBTQ+ issues.
Professional Background
- Current Role: As a Messaging Strategist at Fearless Foundry, Reese develops inclusive marketing strategies that resonate with diverse communities.
- Previous Experience:
- Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Marketing Consultant at IVI RMA Global, where he created LGBTQ-specific content and marketing materials to enhance inclusivity in assisted reproduction services.1
- Development Director at Immigration Equality, managing a $2 million fundraising budget and overseeing various donor programs.1
Notable Achievements
- Reese is an award-winning author and storyteller, known for sharing his personal journey as a trans man and advocating for LGBTQ+ rights.1
- He has collaborated with organizations such as The Moth and Cosmo Magazine to amplify narratives around queer identities and family dynamics.1
Community Engagement
Reese actively participates in community discussions and training sessions aimed at fostering understanding and support for LGBTQ+ individuals. His commitment to advocacy is evident through his involvement in initiatives like the American Leadership Forum of Oregon, where he was recently included in a cohort of leaders.23
Personal Life
Trystan Reese is also recognized for his role as a parent within a queer family, which has inspired many through his public speaking engagements and storytelling efforts.1
Highlights
“I don’t want to offend anyone.”
I hear this a lot in coaching sessions, usually when I’m helping folks think through concrete steps they could take to improve workplace conditions, better their intercultural competence, or stand up as an ally.
And I understand the sentiment— mistakes come at a higher cost than ever these days, and trying something new always comes with a risk of messing it up.
However, the idea of not offending anyone doesn’t get us very far. Firstly, it puts the onus on the person impacted, labeling them as “offended” (which does have an air of “too sensitive” about it). Secondly, there’s not much you can do if you DO cause offense. There aren’t many effective tools for repair, unless your workplace has invested in them.
So I usually propose replacing this phrase with another:
“I don’t want to cause harm.”
Ah ha! When we shift from “offended” language to “harm” language, suddenly so much opens up. Not wanting to cause harm is a value, and you can take so many smart actions when you know what your values are. And if your actions DO cause harm, there are lots of ways to repair it because we understand the concept of harm much better than the concept of being offended.
So instead of saying you don’t want to offend anyone, try saying you don’t want to cause harm. See how much easier it becomes to take the next right action afterwards.
Whether you are transgender, non-binary, an ally, or not... adding pronouns to your signature is just straight-up helpful!
I just had to write an email with so many extra words because I was going through an executive's assistant to put time on their calendar. I haven't coached this individual before, so I have no idea what pronouns to use when referring to them. I went through all prior communication and... no pronouns had ever been shared. So my email to schedule our call was quite awkward; so much time could have been saved if they had simply included their pronouns at some point along the way.
It's not just about trans people... it's about clarifying communication so all of us can be as respectful (and to-the-point) as possible!
